Finnishness – what does that bring to your mind? What are those special characteristics of our culture that separate us from other nations?
Often Finns are described as a bit shy and reserved. That is the feeling you get at least when you meet many of us for the first time. We like to have our own space and be friends with our close circle of people. Add the lack and will for small talk so how do you build relationships with Finns? I believe if you show genuine interest to the other person and are willing to get to know them, they will be likely to open up and even speak deep things about him and the world. You need to cut the small talk to minimum and ask real questions. You will get some real answers in return. That’s right, Finns tend to speak honestly and tell about relevant issues. They are efficient with their words and save energy for the issues that matter. Small talk does not matter, for Finns at least.
Has the coldness something to do with saving that energy? I do not know but coincidentally or not, the hot sauna is the place where Finns might be willing to open up a bit more even for strangers. You might notice even some small talk if you pay careful attention. It is possible. Add some energizing winter swimming to the mix and it seems you’ve entered a whole new culture. People are greeting and chit chatting with strangers while having a big smile on their faces.
As said before, many of us Finns like to keep some distance to others and appreciate being alone at times. Even though, as humans, we have a need to connect and be part of groups. During the dark and quiet winter time, the public saunas are a great opportunity for that. Typical for Finland, they are usually surrounded by beautiful forests so not only will you feel connected to people but also to the nature.
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