My silent, safe and sauna-loving nation

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A lake getting frozen, the picture is taken while walking after a sauna and swim at Rauhaniemen Kansankylpylä

We sit nearly naked, so close that hips almost touch, sweating like little pigs and stay completely silent. If someone acts abnormally somehow: for example keeps the door open for too long or throws inappropriate amount of water (could be too much or too little) to the stove , we might exchange glances across the room, but unless there's an absolute emergency, we do not speak to each other. There might be some couples or groups of people who came together and know each other. They may talk to each other, but they'll respectfully keep their volume down so that they won't distract other people's peace. When we feel hot and sweaty enough, we leave one by one the warm room called sauna and walk to the ice hole (in a line if there's many people) and dip in the ice cold water still being mindful of each other's personal space. We return to the sauna and repeat.

Sauna has always been my safe place. As a kid, my family used to go to sauna quite often and we always connected there the most. After moving to my own apartment with no own sauna, I have been forced to rely on public sauna’s but I’ve learned I enjoy if way more than I though I would. In a public sauna I somehow feel connection with other people without really interacting with them. I love how we can all enjoy this rather weird activity alone and individually while sharing the same small room. There’s no forced conversation, everyone respects each other and a term “bikini body” is absolutely not known in sauna. Everybody can come as they are and nobody expects nothing from them.

I think sauna culture resembles the Finnish social culture quite well. There’s no need to small talk or show off anything. If you have something to say, you are more than welcome to say it but you don’t have to talk for the sake of talking. Most of us are shy but kind and honest. You can easily leave your drink outside of sauna while you go in: you know nobody’s going to do anything to it or take it. You just trust entire strangers. Same way people leave their babies to sleep outside without supervision, there’s absolutely no way someone’s going to take your child. Trust among people builds the feeling of safety and unity.

Then something unusual happens, good or bad: maybe a train full of people gets stuck or the Finnish ice hockey team wins the world title, suddenly people act like they know each other. The people quietly living side by side can start to act like a community while figuring out a shared problem or celebrating a common win. And that’s what I love about my nation. No need to be performative socially, respect and honesty towards each other is right enough and you know that people will have your back if shit hits the fan.

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